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Sep 24, 2010

Maybe? Why? Repeat...

I thought the "why" phase happened around 3 years, but we have already reached it with 2.5 year-old Daniel. It has probably been going on for 3-4 months now, and it's intense! It's nice to see that he is interested in so many things, and he wants to understand the details and reasons. In most cases he is very engaged in the conversation and loves to listen to the explanations. But sometimes, it can be very annoying. He doesn't take any answer for an answer and he continues to ask the same thing over and over again. He seems to ask "why" again before I even answer his earlier question. (I am sure this will sound familiar to people that have already gone through this). Anyways, when it happens, I just try to remind myself that this will end eventually.

Another new routine for Daniel these days is to come up with hypothesis or suggestions starting with "maybe". It's interesting that Daniel is now aware of the possibility of different scenarios or outcomes. And he usually seems to be willing to accept any option, which shows that he is becoming more open and flexible. "Maybe my friends are already at school. Maybe not. I don't know. We'll see" is a typical sentence for Daniel these days. And he sometimes comes up with very advances hypothesis! What an imagination!

Daniel is also using his newly acquired understanding of "maybe" to make suggestions. Typically, when I pick him up from school, he will say something along the lines of "maybe we can go a eat hamburger tonight, maybe" (this would be a daily activity of him if we were only listening to him) or "maybe we can go visit my friend, maybe". Always in a very innocent and cute tone.

Unfortunately, a lot of his suggestions are not realistic for the situation, and I find myself having to explain over and over again why we can't do this or this. I hope that this is a regular phase for kids and that it's just a way for them to learn how things work.. sort of their way to bounce ideas off of the adults to see what is correct and what isn't. I hope that Daniel isn't taking these repeated "no" (although I am careful not to just say "no") personally. I would hate for him to be discouraged if he thinks most of his ideas are rejected. Hopefully, even if he expresses it differently in this context, he is also thinking that there might be a "maybe not" and he is OK with it too from the get-go.

Has anyone experienced this phase before? What was your experience? Any recommendation on how to handle?

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